When it is understood that our distress is partially conditioned on external factors, it may be understood that we cause distress to others, as well - and that, partially, the distress we experience from external factors is a result of how we interact with our external world. And how we interact with our external world is partially conditioned on how we interact internally with our self.
It becomes quickly apparent that between the two, it is easier to alter our internal relationship with our self. Yet it simultaneously evident that our relationships have become aggressive in nature. Our aggression with our self, mirrored in our aggression to our world, reflects in the distress we feel from the world, and from ourselves. Altering this basic aggression is a logical first step in relieving our distress.
Cultivating a love, a friendship, with and for our world and ourselves must begin with a cessation of hostility, and a gesture of peace. The cultivation of such benevolence, a practice of metta bhavana, is initiated through cultivating tolerance, which requires skills in patience. This tolerance permits an exercise of permissiveness, a release of the intent to control - a renunciation of the possessiveness, the attachments, which have been injured through the aggression of our self and our world. This, in turn, permits compassion for the former adversary. Compassion permits empathy, and this permits love. Love naturally arises between the self and the world, and by simply not hindering its natural evolution we may come to enjoy the benefits of ceasing aggression, of peace. This is the surest and quickest means to the Brahmaloka.
If you do not sleep easily, if you do not wake easily, if you have evil dreams, if you have enemies (whether human or otherwise), if you desire protection, or have reason to fear injury (whether from fire, poison, weapons or any other means), if you cannot concentrate quickly, if you are confused, then bring an end to your distress, and seek Brahma by such Brahmacharya.